Most of the people who have just lost their loved one or someone who is very important in their lives are commonly experiencing the five stages of loss or mourning and grief, with the first stage as denial and isolation, then anger, bargaining, depression, and the fifth and last stage is acceptance. These stages are not just being felt by the people who are mourning because of losing someone important, but it also occurs to the ones who have learned about having a terminal illness, and these stages do not happen or occur in a specific order or manner. The people often isolate themselves from other people in order for them to feel numb from the hurtful truth, and being in the state of denial is actually considered as a human being’s common defense mechanism. Bargaining occurs when the people would produce or create if only statements, while anger is when the people would feel resentment and blame their loved ones who have left them. When it comes to the stage of depression, the people may experience two different kinds of depression, such as a reaction that is subtle and private, and a reaction to any practical implications that may be related to their loss. The acceptance stage, on the other hand, is when the people can already cope up with the reality and the truth that one of the important individuals in their lives are already dead.
The best way or method to cope up with the fact that their loved ones are gone is to engrave and remember their memories forever, and it is also best for the people to understand their loved one who died is already out of pain and has arrived in a much better place. The ultimate guide that can help the people in dealing with the death of their loved one include stop and prevent yourself from judging one’s self, especially when you get to accept this reality immediately for each of us may respond differently; it is also best to plan a proper celebration of the loved ones’ life when he or she is still alive, for doing such activities can help you make yourself busy; and lastly, we should always remember that there is no rulebook on how a person or individual should deal with their loved ones’ death. Making or keeping yourself busy is actually considered as an effective way of coping up with the loss of your loved one, and the right way to do that is to decide and choose what to do on their memorial services.